Adolescent same-sex and opposite-sex best friend interactions.
McBride, Cami K. ; Field, Tiffany
Several studies have highlighted the critical importance of
friendship in human development (Goldstein, Field, & Healy, 1989;
Greenberg, Siegel, & Leitch, 1983). A recent review of the
literature on friendship revealed that children with close friends
showed better academic performance, were less likely to drop out of
school, and had lower rates of juvenile delinquency and adult
psychopathology (Parker & Asher, 1987). Another review emphasized
that the DSM-III-R uses lack of close peer relationships as a criterion
for a number of psychiatric disorders of childhood (Reisman, 1985).
Intimate friendship seems to be one of the most salient
characteristics of adolescence, more so than in previous developmental
stages (Buhrmester, 1990). A study that compared preadolescents with
adolescents found that intimate friendship is more important to
adolescents (Buhrmester, 1990). The study also noted that competence in
peer relationship skills is a greater concern for adolescents than for
preadolescents.
The present study examined the interactions of adolescent best friend
pairs in the same manner as a study by Field, Greenwald, Morrow, Healy,
Foster, Guthertz, and Frost (1992) on preadolescents. In that research
preadolescent best friends, as compared with acquaintances, showed more
matching of positive behavioral states and lower stress as evidenced by
lower cortisol levels. The present study used the same paradigm to
determine whether adolescent best friend pairs show similar matching of
behavior states during interactions and whether there are differences
across same-sex and opposite-sex interactions at a time when
opposite-sex friendships are developing. The opposite-sex friendship
assessment was new to this study.
Few studies have compared same-sex friendships with opposite-sex
friendships in adolescents. A discontinuity in opposite-sex friendship
might be expected because of the erotic element (Sharbany, Gershoni,
& Hoffman, 1981). Opposite-sex friendship is considered a learning
stage for mature sexual relations and has been considered a more
intimate form of friendship than same-sex friendship in adolescence
(Sharbany et al., 1981). However, because of the relative novelty,
opposite-sex interactions may not be as relaxed.
Questions addressed in this study were whether personality
characteristics, such as self-esteem and extraversion, would be
important factors in opposite-sex friendships versus same-sex
friendships. Would opposite-sex friends be more matched in their
behavior states than would same-sex friends, or would they be less
matched because high school juniors have less experience with
opposite-sex friends? Opposite-sex friends might engage in more polite
turn-taking rather than being in similar behavior states of animation
and playfulness. Also, cortisol levels may be higher in opposite-sex
friends than in same-sex friends because the erotic element may elicit
more stress during the interaction (Sharbany et al., 1981).
To examine these questions, adolescents were videotaped in samesex
and opposite-sex best friend pairs during a conversation on any topic.
The videotapes were later rated for concordance of behavior states. In
addition, saliva samples were collected to determine the subjects'
cortisol levels before and after the interaction. The subjects also
completed questionnaires in which they rated their interaction and the
likability and characteristics of their partner. They were also asked to
complete self-esteem, peer intimacy, depression, and anxiety scales.
METHOD
Subjects and Procedure
Forty-eight high school juniors (24 males and 24 females) were asked
to participate in the study and to name their best same-sex friend and
best opposite-sex friend who attended the same high school. Their best
friends were then invited to participate with them. The average age of
the adolescents was 16.3 years (range = 15-17). Their ethnic
distribution was 35% Hispanic, 33% white, 18% African American, and 14%
other, consistent with the high school distribution. Fifty-seven percent
of their parents were married, 89% had at least some college, and over
49% had a graduate school degree. Eighty-two percent of their parents
earned more than $30,000, and the sample averaged 2.3 (middle to upper
middle SES) on the Hollingshead Index.
Selection of best friend pairs. The students were asked to provide
demographic information (age, sex, race) and the names of their best
same-sex friend and best opposite-sex friend within the same high school
grade. The questions used to ascertain best friends were: "I spend
the most time with -----"; "I know ----- the best"; and
"I have lunch with_ the most." The students named as best
friends were then asked to participate and to answer the same questions.
The students who designated one another on two out of three of the above
questions were matched in pairs.
Same-sex and opposite-sex best friend interactions. The best friend
pairs were seated face-to-face across a table and asked to have a
conversation on any topic. The interaction lasted 10 minutes and was
videotaped. A mirror was propped next to one friend so that the image on
the video screen showed the dyad side by side. Immediately after the
conversation, an observer rated each adolescent on interaction behavior.
Instruments
Adolescent questionnaires. The questionnaires were administered after
the interactions so as not to influence students' mood state. The
self-esteem, peer intimacy, depression, and anxiety scales were
administered only after the first session, and the same-sex/opposite-sex
interaction order was counterbalanced. Feelings about the interaction
and partner ratings were obtained after both same-sex and opposite-sex
interactions.
Feelings scale. Conversation comfort, or how the adolescents felt
during the interaction, was tapped using a 5-point Likert scale that
included the following positive bipolar ratings: relaxed, friendly,
interested, calm, self-conscious, enthusiastic, confident, involved,
happy, in charge of the situation, natural, and pleasant. The scale was
the same as that used in the Field et al. (1992) study, with items
generated on a face validity basis in a study by Warner et al. (1987).
Partner rating. The students were asked to rate how much they liked
their conversation partner on a 5-point Likert scale. The 12 items were
the same as those used in the study by Field et al. (1992): (a) the way
he/she looks, (b) his/her personality, (c) the things he/she said, (d)
the way he/she talks, (e) the way he/she smiles/laughs, (f) his/her
ideas, (g) the way he/she listens, (h) the way he/she laughs at things,
(i) the way we share ideas, (j) the way he/she looks at me, (k) the way
we take turns talking, and (l) the way we have fun together talking.
Self-esteem scale. This scale asked the students to compare
themselves with their peers on a variety of descriptors, including
confident, independent, angry, and moody. Students responded to
questions that began: "Compared to my peers I would say that I am
in general . . . (e.g., happy: less, the same, or more)."
Peer intimacy scale. This scale measured students' level of
intimacy with best friend. There were eight questions (e.g., "How
much do you share your inner feelings or secrets with your best
friend?"), with answers ranging from not at all to very much and
higher scores signifying greater intimacy.
Center for Epidemiological Studies Depression Scale (CES-D) (Radloff,
1977). This scale assesses depression levels by asking subjects to
compare their feelings during the preceding week on items representing
the primary symptoms of depression. A 4-point Likert scale (rarely or
none of the time, some or little of the time, a lot of the time and most
or all of the time) measures subjects' feelings.
State-Trait Anxiety Inventory (STAI) (Spielberger, Gorsuch, &
Lushene, 1970). This questionnaire assesses level of current situational
anxiety. It consists of 40 items rated on a 4-point Likert scale (not at
all, somewhat, moderately, and very much so).
Extraversion Scale (Buck, 1975). Buck's
internalizer-externalizer scale was used to determine the
adolescents' extraversion-introversion. Items are rated on a
5-point Likert scale, from not at all characteristic to always
characteristic. Examples of items are: "I am warm and friendly to
others," "I am shy," and "I have many friends."
RESULTS
Within-subjects repeated-measures analyses of variance were conducted
with gender as the grouping variable and type of interaction
(same-sex/opposite-sex) as the repeated measure. Interaction effects
were analyzed using post hoc Bonferroni t tests.
As can be seen in Table 1, a group by repeated-measures interaction
effect and post hoc comparisons indicated that females scored higher on
the "How I felt" measure, suggesting greater comfort during
samesex interactions than during opposite-sex interactions. Another
group by repeated-measures interaction effect indicated that females
also [TABULAR DATA FOR TABLE 1 OMITTED] assigned higher partner ratings
than did males following same-sex interactions. Finally, female students
spent more time in a playful behavior state during same-sex versus
opposite-sex interactions, and male students spent more time in a
playful behavior state during their interactions with females.
Intraclass correlation analyses were then conducted to determine
whether the members of the dyads were similar to each other on
personality traits and responses to their interactions and whether their
state behaviors (interested, animated, playful) were correlated within
dyads. As can be seen in Table 2, dyad members, whether female-female,
male-male, or female-male, were not similar to each other either on the
transitory mood states of depression (CES-D, M = 21, range = 9-47) and
anxiety (STAI, M = 42, range = 28-59) or on more traitlike
characteristics, namely extraversion-introversion (M = 92, range =
74-118) and self-esteem (M = 45, range = 38-50). However, on their
responses to the interactions there were significant intraclass
correlations for peer intimacy and partner ratings within the
opposite-sex dyads. In addition, dyad members were similar on the amount
of time they spent in an interested state independent of the type of
interaction dyad. However, similarity on the time spent in an animated
state was noted in dyad members only during male-male interactions, and
similarity on the time spent in a playful state was noted in dyad
members only during female-female interactions.
Table 2
Intraclass Correlations to Determine Similarity Within Same-Sex and
Opposite-Sex Dyads
Same Sex Opposite Sex
Variable Female Male
Personality Assessment
CES-D (Depression) -.01 .02 -.01
STAI (Anxiety) -.02 .01 .00
Extraversion .03 .00 -.02
Self-esteem .01 .04 -.02
Responses to Interaction
"How I Felt" .02 .05 .04
Peer Intimacy .06 .01 .17(b)
Partner Rating -.01 .03 .23(b)
Interaction States
Interested .20(b) .21(b) .19(b)
Animated .06 .41(b) .05
Playful .29(b) .07 .06
* Significant at .05
** Significant at .01
Note: When an intraclass correlation is significant, each member
of the dyad is more correlated with each other than with another
person.
DISCUSSION
The most comfortable, playful interactions in this study on high
school juniors appeared to be those between females. Females rated their
same-sex interactions as more comfortable and their female partners more
likable, and they engaged in more playful behavior together than did
male-male or opposite-sex dyads. This could be due to females'
having more experience with face-to-face interactions. Anecdotal observations suggest that adolescent females spend more time talking
about relationships while males spend more time roughhousing. It is
interesting in this regard that males were more playful during their
interactions with females than with other males, as if learning how to
be playful in face-to-face interactions with the more experienced
females. Although we had anticipated that by their junior year these
adolescents would be spending more time in heterosexual relationships
and therefore rating them more optimally and showing more playful
behavior, that did not appear to be true for this sample.
Because of assortative mating theories for selection of adult
relationships, we expected within-dyad similarities on at least some
mood state or personality variables. However, like the results of Field
et al. (1992) for a sixth-grade sample, there did not appear to be any
similarity between partners within any of the dyads for mood states
(depression and anxiety) or for the two personality variables
(extraversion and self-esteem). Anecdotally, we noticed no other
physical or personality variables that might have been criteria for
friend selection. The members of the pairs seemed extremely different at
first glance.
The adolescents did, however, receive similar peer intimacy and
partner ratings following opposite-sex interactions. And behaviorally,
they spent similar amounts of time together in an interested state, and
in an animated state in the case of male-male dyads and in a playful
state in the case of female-female dyads. Basically, then, although
there was very little similarity within dyads on self-ratings for mood
and personality factors, the adolescents were often in the same behavior
state as their partner during interactions, suggesting behavior matching
or synchrony. These findings highlight the probability that the
adolescents were in fact interacting with their best friends. In a
previous study (Field et al., 1992), matching of behavior states,
particularly optimal ones, was noted only among best friend pairs.
Further research is needed on how these friendships evolve.
Determining whether a "comfort level" similar to that of
female-female interactions in a face-to-face situation develops for
males, and whether females come to experience that level of comfort and
matching of playful behavior in their interactions with males, will
require additional study even later in adolescent development than we
had anticipated.
The authors gratefully acknowledge the adolescents who participated
in this study and the research associates, Marc LeTourneau, Aaron White,
Tory Field, and Shay Largie, who assisted in the data collection and
coding. This research was supported by an NIMH Research Scientist Award
(#MH00331) and an NIMH Research Grant (#MH46586) to Tiffany Field.
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